Get Off Your High Horse!

I had an experience with a very specific couple in my ‘down line’ in the business that I am currently in and wanted to share it with you. The reason I want to shed some light on this is because we all know it’s major to learn from our experiences so that we can gain the knowledge needed to thrive in our lives. In other words, I want to get into this with you as a reminder that we need to step off of that pedestal and learn to let go of our egos.

But first off, if you’re thinking that this is one of those posts that’s just an excuse to dump my feelings on you because I’m bored, I promise you that that’s something you don’t have to worry about.

So here goes…

The couple was sponsored into my organization by one of my business partners. Because of this couples’ long history in the home based business industry I had thoughts of the high statuses that I could achieve right away; how immature of me. To defend myself, this particular couple had a reputation for success in the area of home business.

Because I was their up line I was not only required, but I was willing (and excited I may add) to train them on everything they needed to know about our team and company. Mind you, I was pretty new to the business (only two months into it) but was trained rather extensively regarding the entire company and team. The bottom line is that I had a lot more knowledge than this couple even could imagine me having.

Anyhow, I had this notion that they were going to appreciate the things that I was excited to teach them; concerning the way to do things to be successful in this new business of theirs.

Boy was I wrong.

In the team I was a part of (at the time), our first steps after an enrollment of a business partner were important if we wanted our organization to be a successful one. We had to teach them a lot of different topics; like how to build their contact list, how to set appointments, how to present the company properly, and how to do a follow-up…You know the drill, guys .

Personally, it was an honor for me to teach someone that had lots of experience in this industry a thing or two. As a matter of fact, this couple had WAY more experience in the home based industry than me.

(Did I mention this was my only experience in anything dealing with the entire home based business industry?)

Right off the bat everything started out poorly. Yes, okay they knew people interested in signing up in the company instantly and they wanted me to tell them WHAT to do first. That was pretty much all they wanted to know from me. It may not sound as bad, but to me it did; because I wanted to TEACH them how to do things, NOT TELL them.

They wanted to take the reins and pretty much take control on stage. Did they care about what I had to teach them?

Probably not.

Whatever their reason was, the bottom line is they didn’t give me any second thought; they didn’t care for my help.

To be fair, their business organization flourished beautifully and is still that way today as I write this. That is great for them!

Without me saying it, do you sense where I’m going here?

Why do we doubt other people’s values or capabilities?

I would’ve appreciated a plain and sincere thank you. But they didn’t so much as say “Thank you for offering to train us.” I’m not gonna sit here and say that I am the one who should be getting credit for any part of their business because I’m definitely not the reason for their success.

But getting back to my point of the post: Their pride in choosing to do things on their own didn’t help them in any way to become better at being a better and well rounded individual.

I don’t say this because I am huge on personal development and self-improvement. Instead I say it for apparent reasons. Here is an excerpt of one of the books I’m currently reading by Eckhart Tolle that will explain what I mean even further:

“People will often enter into a compulsive pursuit of ego-gratification and things to identify with in order to fill this hole they feel within. So they strive after possessions, money, success, power, recognition, or a special relationship, basically so that they can feel better about themselves, feel more complete. But, even when they attain all these things, they soon find that the hole is still there, that it is bottomless.”

“As long as the egoic mind is running your life, you cannot truly be at ease; you cannot be at peace or fulfilled except for brief intervals when you obtained what you wanted, when a craving has just been fulfilled. Since the ego is a derived sense of self, it needs to identify with external things. It needs to be both defended and fed constantly. The most common ego identifications have to do with possessions, the work you do, social status and recognition, knowledge and education, physical appearance, special abilities, relationships, personal and family history, belief systems, and often also political, nationalistic, racial, religious, and other collective identifications. None of these is you.”

So why did I wanna share this excerpt with you? Because it talks about “The Ego’s Search for Wholeness.”

I sincerely feel for this couple not wanting any help. They need to get off of their high horse! Seriously!

That is one way for us to grow, develop ourselves and expand our minds. It is how we add value to our lives and towards one another on how much we can offer others; one way is by receiving help.

Continuous education anyone?

Without me going on and on about this, I just want to say that I have zero doubt in my mind on whether or not you understood what this post was about. In fact I have confidence that you got my message.

Let’s share our values with one another and help each other to thrive in our individual lives. It will help our souls, ease our minds, and ultimately will allow us to feel good about ourselves in what we have to offer others.