3 Things to Keep in Mind to STOP Taking Things Personal – A Useful Guide for Network Marketers

 

If you’ve ever been in a situation where you caught yourself taking something personal but didn’t know how to shift your mindset (this can be true for many getting started as a network marketer), this guide is for you.

Taking_things_personal_stop_sign_imageAfter reading this guide I hope you will learn how to STOP it – how to stop taking things personal.

When doing business as a network marketer it is inevitable to experience people sign up and then not long after they cancel their membership. Without say, there is a LOT I learned having gone through all that.

Now that I have the posture of an alpha, I created this guide with 3 things to keep in mind and help you learn how to stop taking things personal. If you choose to be affected by someone else’s opinion or action/inaction, life will be miserable and stressful. ‘Nuf said, let’s get into it…

Here are 3 Things to Keep in Mind

to Stop Taking Things Personal

→ It’s not all about you.

“If he really likes me then why did he sign up with her and not me; I’ve answered every question they wanted to know about the company but they still chose not to sign up with me; they knew I prepared their favorite dish, I can’t believe they cancelled the presentation tonight on me; if he was truly honest he would’ve told me he wasn’t able to afford signing up for the monthly auto ship.”

Did you notice a pattern in all these scenarios? The word “me”. Now, let’s look at some other pieces that will prove why this really isn’t all about you:

  • Mom has always been so loving and supportive… “isn’t that about me?”
  • The cashier at the store smiled at you because she is having a really great day… “isn’t that about me?”
  • Your best friend always remembers your birthday… “isn’t that about me?” gift_for_you_image

You might be saying “I see where you’re going with this, Jaclyn.” Excellent…you’re getting it! When someone says yes or no in signing up with you, or if they say/don’t say something about you, it’s about THEM, not you. You got it!

So my good friend, my sister, my neighbor, and the lady I met at the dentist signed up and cancelled their membership because they didn’t care for the products, they signed up just to show me support, and they cancelled because they didn’t like the idea of autoship. It wasn’t because of me. It was because of them.

You see? It isn’t personal and it really isn’t all about you. I mean that in a good sense of course :-) .

From now on, when ever you catch yourself saying “I can’t believe they did that to me”, get conscious about the fact that you’re using “me” about some other person’s actions.


→ People are busy.

What kind of activities, projects, tasks, events, parties, fundraisers, family time, volunteer assignments, webinars, personal commitments, etc. do you have going on in your calender for the next 7 days?

busy_people_time_clock_imageWhen Jane doesn’t show up to your presentation (yet again), think about what she might have going on instead of reacting resentful about it and taking it personal. Maybe she had a medical issue or family emergency. She probably forgot that she made another appointment at the same time of your presentation.

Did that ever happen to you? OR, did you ever think, maybe, just maybe she just doesn’t have the time (or doesn’t wanna sacrifice one-hour) to listen to your presentation about vitamins because her family comes first and she needs to prepare dinner for them? Maybe she’s too embarrassed to tell you that she doesn’t care for your opportunity or products. (We as network marketers have to be willing to go through some reality checks such as these.)

The rule of thumb is that each time you find yourself taking something personal, think of a positive possibility instead of a negative one pointing back to yourself. Doing that alone will change your emotions about the entire scenario.

Think about it. Don’t react to what other people are doing with their lives.

→ Some Will. Some Won’t. So What? Someone’s Waiting.

(The 4 SW’s) There’s no law that says everyone has to love what you are about or like what you have to offer. No one is required to care about what you plan to contribute to the world.  people_lining_up_image

The good news is you will have some people that care and love what you can teach them. Some will love you for it, encourage & support you, and will want more of what you suggest/recommend. Some won’t. Some will shrug their shoulders and say so what, “good luck”. And then there’s always that someone waiting…

Waiting for you to come and save them from drowning in their financial mess.  As a matter of fact there will be (if there isn’t one already) a line of people waiting and you’re gonna have to turn some of them away because of time limitations.

(I talk about the 4-SW’s on one of my video posts titled 3 Deadly Business Mistakes to Avoid and Easy Solutions)

General Thoughts on Taking Things Personal…

  • Realize that you don’t need anyone’s approval. Just because someone is not happy with you doesn’t necessarily mean you did something wrong. In majority of cases, it means that person isn’t happy with their life and expects to feel better by making you feel lower than they are. 
  • Shift your focused attention. Shift your attention from how you feel, to what kind of person you’re dealing with. Maybe they’re emotionally insecure, or they have poor communication skills, or maybe they’re just flat out mean (What kind of person are they, how do they generally treat others?)
  • Get enough shut eye and fuel your body with good food. When you’re tired or hungry you tend to get more sensitive (aka cranky/on the edge). Self-explanatory right?!

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